Wedding night jitters are a real thing (and BTW – they’re normal!)
by Julie Young
No matter what your level of experience with physical intimacy, chances are you will have some anxiety about your wedding night. It’s OK, we all do! After planning the perfect day and booking your dream honeymoon destination, it only stands to reason that your first night as a married woman should rise to the occasion as well, right?
In a word, no and the more pressure you put on yourself, the more nervous you will become and the less likely the experience will match your expectations. Fear not! We’ve got you covered with some of the top tips to have an enjoyable wedding night without additional stress!
Feels like the first time
If you are about to engage in sexual intercourse for the first time, it is important that you schedule an appointment with your gynecologist to insure your reproductive health, discuss any family-planning needs (if applicable) and address any concerns you may have about sex. There are also a number of good books on the subject and a trusted female relative or friend can be invaluable when it comes to tell you what you can expect on the big night.
You will also want to have a frank talk with your fiancé to create a loose plan for your wedding night and what you both can expect from it. Will a glass of wine help relax you? Will revealing lingerie help you feel like a goddess or will you feel awkward? Remember that things rarely go as planned, it takes time to get to know one another (in a physical sense) and achieving mutual satisfactory lovemaking is a more of a marathon than a sprint. Practice makes perfect!
Even if you and your fiancé are more “comfortable” with one another, the pressure to have the perfect wedding night can be overwhelming. However, it’s important to remember that you are the same couple you were before you were wed. If you have visions of romance, rose petals and being swept off your feet, you may be disappointed when reality does not live up to your fantasy. Remember: “special” does not mean completely different.
You may also be too exhausted and tipsy from the celebrations to consummate your union. That’s fine! There is no rule that says sex has to happen and you should never feel pressured to do anything you don’t want to do. However, if you want to be in top physical condition for your wedding night, stay hydrated, keep your alcohol consumption reasonable, leave your reception at a reasonable time and plan to spent the night at a nearby hotel rather than embarking on a long drive. Above all, laugh off any mishaps – one night will not make or break your marriage!